I felt so affirmed when I read “The Grieving Brain” by Mary-Frances O’Connor. She wrote that sudden and tragic loss (like mine) can have the same detrimental effects on the brain similar to a traumatic brain injury. My brain has not recovered in its ability to process and digest and even grasp information. And so be it. If that is a consequence of losing the love of my life, I’m fine with it.
I felt so affirmed when I read “The Grieving Brain” by Mary-Frances O’Connor. She wrote that sudden and tragic loss (like mine) can have the same detrimental effects on the brain similar to a traumatic brain injury. My brain has not recovered in its ability to process and digest and even grasp information. And so be it. If that is a consequence of losing the love of my life, I’m fine with it.
Yea, it truly affects our brains. It took me a while to accept it, but once I did, things began to get better.
How long ago did you lose your person?
My husband was killed crossing the street in a hit-and-run 2.5 years ago. Seems like 10 years ago. Still can’t believe it. Probably never will.
I have that same sense. I feel like the time with my wife was in some distant past with some other version of me.
Grief has warped my sense of time.